Five key truths for happier marriages revealed

Psychologist Mark Travers highlights five important truths about marriage that many people learn too late. He emphasizes that understanding these truths early can lead to a happier relationship. First, love alone does not solve all problems. Couples often enter marriage believing that love will handle all conflicts and differences. However, a successful marriage relies on commitment, effort, and adaptability. It's important to focus on daily choices and how both partners respond to conflict and support each other. Second, conflict is a natural and necessary part of any relationship. Many believe that compatible couples do not argue, but not addressing disagreements can lead to bigger issues. Healthy conflict allows couples to discuss their needs and find solutions. Travers advises couples to approach arguments respectfully, avoiding blame and personal attacks. Third, expecting a spouse to be everything is unrealistic. Couples should maintain their individual interests and friendships. A strong sense of self helps prevent feelings of suffocation in the relationship. A good marriage is made up of two complete individuals, rather than two halves trying to form a whole. Fourth, many underestimate the effort required to sustain a healthy marriage. Life's responsibilities can push the relationship down the priority list. Regular check-ins and quality time together are necessary, similar to maintaining a car for it to run properly. Lastly, individuals change over time. The person you marry at 25 may evolve by 45. Embracing these changes is essential for a successful partnership. Couples who adapt and grow together, finding new reasons to love each other, create a stronger bond. This openness allows both partners to thrive individually and as a couple.