Woman seeks clarity on relationship with son's father amid mixed signals

A woman is uncertain about her relationship with her son's father, Tony, who is dealing with anger issues. They have a complicated history, having dated for two years before their son was born and having an on-and-off relationship since then. Tony has expressed that he does not want a romantic relationship while he works on his problems. The woman feels confused by his mixed signals and has set boundaries, including no sex unless they are in a committed relationship. Dear Abby advises her to recognize that Tony seems only interested in a friendly relationship. She suggests that the woman should not wait for a future with him, as it may lead to disappointment.